Stop caring him Quote

The love of Bella

Bella is smart and beautiful lady. She and I we are close friends.

I still remember on my first time meeting with her, we were on our first working day. We attended the orientation, I sat next to her and from then we have become close friends. 

 She was very cheerful, outgoing and friendly. She was the very positive thinking person. She had a sense of humor as well. I have never met any person who has the whole package like her!  Everybody who met her would like her. She was the most loved person in the company.

We were inseparable, having lunch, having dinner, going to the gym together. On weekends I hung out with her almost 24 hours a day. Eventually, she fell in love with someone. From that day after work and weekends, I did not see her anymore.

Finally one Saturday I met her again. She looked sad, worried, and frustrated. Even though she sat right in front of me, I felt like she wasn’t there. She just kept staring at her phone, looked like she was waiting for someone‘s text.  So I asked her what is going on? She said, “I called him; texted him, but he never answered me.”  She continued “so many times that he kept me waiting for him but he never showed up! I don’t know what’s going on? I need an answer. I want to talk to him. But he hasn’t answered my phone!”

During work hours I noticed she worked in an absentminded way. She had changed a lot; I missed my old cheerful, lovely and confident girl. She totally lost herself being in a relationship with that guy!

To be continued!

"Your life will get better when you realize it’s better to be alone than to chase people who don’t really care about you."

-Thema Davis

Don't take things personally

If you can stop taking things personally, you will be happier. I am pretty sure that everyone knows about this; however, it is easier said than done.

I have never thought carefully about it until one day when I found myself being frustrated with other people’s actions. Let me share my experience with you.

I went to the store; as I walked into the front door, the lady pushed a shopping cart toward me because the exit and the entrance were the same. So I stopped to let her out. And while I was stepping back, I didn’t know that there was another lady behind me. I accidentally stepped on her foot; I said sorry to her but seemed like she didn’t accept my apology. I could tell from her attitude because she gave me a dirty look.  Her behavior bothered me, and I felt like my mood was ruined.

This is just one example of situations in my routine life. As we are human beings, we can’t avoid facing unpleasant circumstances. I have realized that I can’t control people’s behaviors, attitudes, and unpredicted incidents.

If I still let myself get frustrated, I would never be happy because there will always be an unpleasant incident. When things frustrate me, I need to change my attitude and stop taking things personally. What others say or do is not about me; it’s about them. Now I have found myself being happier since that day, I have changed my attitude.
I hope you can do it as I did and you will be happier. Stop taking things personally!

"Don't take anything personally because by taking things personally you set yourself  up to  suffer for nothing."

-Miguel Ruiz

Life goes on quote

What will you do if thing that you expected to happen not happened as the way you expected?

It is painful but it's the truth that we must accept. Honestly tell it has always happened to me!

So many times that I have got rejected from the jobs that I applied. I failed for the proficiency test many times despite I had been studying so hard.I was disappointed in behavior of my loved ones.I was saddened by the failure of the expectations.

When I experienced these difficulties, I felt discouraged. I know everybody has a bad day.
And I know thing always happens the way it's supposed to be.

When these things happened to me I would allow myself to feel bad, sometimes I cried. After I wallowed in self pity for a while I would try to put things in perspective. I tried the best way for me to get over the hurt. First I would review the outcome if it because of me I would improve myself.
However if the outcome not caused by me it couldn't be helped! I would tell myself  I can't control the situations but I can control my thoughts and attitudes.

True Friends Quote

I believe everybody has friends. It sounds stupid that I say this, but my point is what kind of friend do you have?  In my life I have many groups of friends. I have friends from kindergarten, high school, university, and from my workplaces.

I had a very good time with friends from high school and university. I have had lots of memorable moments and sometimes we did stupid and crazy things. However they were  happy moments that I will never forget.

Until now when I recall my old days back then it makes me smile. Time flies, we have grown up and  have our own duties to do. We have family, jobs to take care. Sometimes we forgot to think of our friends, we even lost contact with them  However thanks to social media , I found many of long lost friends from Facebook. Even though we haven't been in touch for quite a long time, we are connected because we are friends.