Friday, December 2, 2022

Perspective is Everything In Life

 "Life is about perspective and how you look at things. You can't control what will happen, but what you can control is your perspective."

-Belle Aronson


Life is full of ups and downs; no one always has a smooth and perfect life. Everyone has been through hard times in life. But what makes us different is how we choose to view it. 


 You can't control your situation. But you have a choice about how you view it. You can choose to be miserable, or you can choose to make the best of it.  



The pain of change is nothing compared to the pain of staying stuck in an unhappy situation. When life is hard, and you don't know what else to do, focus on the little things that bring you joy. Maybe it's a hobby, spending time outdoors, watching a movie, playing with your pet, or taking a walk.


No matter how hard life gets, remember that you are strong and capable of making it through. You've survived tough times before, and you can do it again. Let go of what isn't working and find a way to make the most of what is.


You can do this! Life isn't always easy, but you can find strength and resilience with the right attitude. Focus on all the good things in your life, no matter how small they may seem. Appreciate all you have, and don't forget to take care of yourself. Be kind to yourself and be patient with the process.


You are capable of more than you think. Believe in yourself and your capability to keep going, no matter what life throws you.
Change can be challenging, but it can also bring excellent opportunities that wouldn't otherwise exist. Embrace the uncertainty and take it one day at a time.


Sunday, November 6, 2022

Love Yourself, Accept Yourself For Who You Are

 "Love yourself, accept yourself for who you are, and be grateful for everything that happened because it shaped you."
Belle Aronson 


You must love yourself enough to accept everything that happened to you in the past, even though it is hard. 


Sometimes, it hurts, but remember that pain is inevitable, but suffering is optional. It is up to you whether you will let it destroy or shape you. 


Everyone makes mistakes; no one is perfect. What makes people different is how they react to what has already happened. 


You must be grateful for all your challenges because they make you who you are today.




Saturday, October 15, 2022

Live Your Life The Way You Want, And Be Happy.

 "Love yourself, forgive yourself, live your life the way you want, and be happy."

-Belle Aronson




I am the one who constantly ponders about happiness in life, and sometimes I think I know how to make myself happy. 


I have been spending a lot of my time finding a way to live my life happily. I have been reading many books and researching, including practicing spirituality. I have to admit that all of them are useful. And help to bring me back on track. 


I have learned that to be a happy person, you must be yourself, and to be yourself, you must live your life the way you want. It may seem simple, but it is not as easy as it looks in practice. 


To be yourself, you must spend time with yourself and see your true self. It all happens to your internal that external factors don't impact you. 


To live your life the way you want is to be you and do the things that make you happy. You are the only person entitled to live your life; you don't need others to tell you how to live.


To be happy, you are responsible for your happiness. You create it. Being happy or unhappy depends on how you choose your thoughts and perceptions and react to external factors. 

Sunday, October 9, 2022

Real Happiness is found within

 

"Remember that unhappiness does not come from what is going on in your life. But, it comes from the way you think about it. "


Belle Aronson





If I ask everyone what do they want most in their life? I believe most of them will answer they want to live happily. It seems very easy, but it is not easy, as it is said. 



Because we always base our happiness on external factors like frame, money, career success, happiness in love and relationship, etc. 



We tend to forget that external factors are uncontrollable and expect things to happen as we expect. 



Unfortunately, most of the time, things didn't go as we expected. And we are disappointed; we keep pondering why history keeps repeating itself repeatedly! That we question ourselves when we finally live happily.



What if we change our perspective on life to be happy is not determined by what's happening around us but by what's happening inside us? 



It doesn't matter what happens to us, but what we think about it matters. 

Because nothing lasts forever, happiness and sadness don't last forever either. 

Tuesday, August 30, 2022

The Power Of Loving Yourself

 "If you love yourself and know your worth, you will get through any difficulty in your life. "

-Belle Aronson





Life is not easy; it is full of ups and downs that you must face throughout your journey. Sometimes you have a very good day, and sometimes you have a very bad day. As Buddha said, nothing lasts forever-suffering and happiness don't last forever. But you tend to forget this fact.


You feel happy when things go as expected, but you feel unhappy when things don't go as expected. And looks like you have never learned that you can't control other people's speeches, thoughts, and actions. And you can't control outside situations, what will happen. 


Human thoughts and actions are unpredictable. So many times, we are hurt by people's actions or speeches. And it has happened to me many times that I have learned the hard way. 


When people let me down, underestimate me, or say something hurtful to me like I am not good enough. I must admit that it hurts, but I don't let that feeling define me. I tell myself I am more than my feeling. I know my worth, and I don't need their validation.


I know I am not perfect, and I have made mistakes often because I am still learning. I may fail many times, but after I fail, I am the one who picks myself up. I must be the first one who encourages myself. Who else will if I don't love myself and don't know my worth? 


I have learned that the power of self-love is vital. If you love yourself enough, you will not let yourself down or wallow in sadness for a long time. Because you know that you deserve better. 



Friday, August 19, 2022

A Girl And The Search For Happiness And Meaning

 "I struggle to find meaning and happiness, but I fail to find my mind.

When my mind wanders, I can't find happiness and meaning.

And when I find my mind, happiness and meaning return."

-Belle Aronson


When she was young, she believed she must keep chasing her dream.
She thought her life would be
happy and meaningful when she finally lived her dream.

She then finally lived the life of her dream. A great family, a successful job, and a desired social status that she always wanted it.


 She thought she would feel happy and fulfilled when she lived her dream life. However, she still pondered about her life. She wondered if something in her life was missing.


One day she decided to discover this mystery.
She wanted to know
the secret to living a happy and meaningful life.
It took her years to figure it out.


She had learned that she struggled to find
happiness and meaning.
But she failed to find her mind.
Her happiness and meaning couldn't be found when she let her mind wander. 
And when she could find her mind, happiness and meaning returned.



Now she has learned to live in the present. She knows she can be
happy when her mind and body are together. She has finally realized that happiness and meaning are from the inside.

-Belle Aronson





Wednesday, August 17, 2022

Cry To Me. I am here.

 "He broke your heart; cry it out, girl. Cry to me as hard as you want to. Let the tears carry your sadness away. And I know you'll be fine tomorrow."

-Belle Aronson




Life is hard as we know. 

Sometimes things didn't go as you expected.

And I know today you have a bad day.

I just wanted to let you know that I am here.


Any time you want to talk or cry on my shoulder, I am here.

I know you are hurting when someone you love has left you.

Don't hurt yourself; don't let the pain ruin your life.

You are more than your pain; you deserve better!



Don't you feel like
crying?

Cry to me;I am here.

Cry as hard as you want to.

And don't forget, you can always start again on a new day.

-Belle Aronson








Sunday, August 14, 2022

How to get over someone, or some thing

"In life, there are some things we might never really get over.
Sometimes the best we can do is just get through. But that's okay. There's still a lot of beauty to find on the other side."
-Unknown


Someone said," Forgive but Never Forget."I agree with him; I still remember the painful experiences that I had undergone. 


I had been through several breakups that I didn't think I could bear. I felt like history kept repeating itself; I would blame my boyfriend and hold grudges. I hated him that he hurt me. 


I was hurt because I thought I had given him my all, but he treated me like an option, a backup plan. I kept expecting that he would change someday, but it never happened. 


I pondered why I had to go through the same situation repeatedly; maybe something was wrong with me. I then finally figured it out. 


I realized that I couldn't change others, and I couldn't control them either, but what I could do was how I chose to react to what happened.


I had to admit that I could not forget my painful experiences, but I let them go and moved on. I couldn't get over it, but I got through.



Wednesday, July 27, 2022

I am Thankful For The Storm in My Life

 "When you come out of the storm, you won't be the same person who walked in. That's what this storm is all about"
-Haruki Murakami





Hello, everyone. First, I would like to say sorry that I haven't written a post for a while. I am back and will do my best to post as often as possible.


Whenever I feel down or discouraged, I will look for inspiring words to motivate myself, and I have found this one that inspires me. In retrospect, I am thankful for the storm in my life.


When I went through the most challenging test in my life, relationship and financial failures simultaneously. I felt like my life was falling apart; I could not see any solutions. I had let myself wallow in sadness for months. I cried myself to sleep every night. 


I lived in Bangkok, Thailand. One day, when I was driving to work. There was a lot of traffic, and I got stuck; I observed a crowded, non-air-condition public bus stop next to my car; several people stood because all the seats were occupied. I was thinking how terrible there is that people have to stand, crowding each other on the non-air-condition bus. 


 Then after traffic started moving, I drove and stopped at the intersection due to red light; a little girl who looked like she was 9 or 10 years old knocked on my car window. She asked if I wanted to buy fresh flower garland. I felt so bad for her that she was very young but was put to do that job.



On that day, there came a time when I had an epiphany. I thought how fortunate I was; I had a car, a good job, and a roof over my head while many people lived in ghettos; some even lived under a bridge. Some had to beg for money and food to survive day by day.


I realized that I was not the only one in the world who had been through a tough time. When my perspective changed, I could see a new way to look at my problems. When I changed the way to looked at things, the things I looked at changed.


I fixed my financial problems by negotiating with my bank; I had credit card debt, and I paid them the amount I could afford. I could do that because I accepted a new job that paid me better than the previous one. It was a challenging job, but I took it anyway.  


I could finally fix my financial problem, but my relationship with my boyfriend ended; he kept cheating on me repeatedly, and I could not let it happen to me anymore. I decided to move on. It hurt, but I knew I would finally get over him. 


When I look back on my life, I do appreciate all difficulties that I have been through. You have never known how strong you are until being strong is your only choice. And when you come out of the storm, you are not the same person who walked in because you are much stronger. And storm does not break you, but it makes you. I am thankful for the storm in my life.