Thursday, August 16, 2018

When she chooses to see crisis as an opportunity for growth

We are always used to our routine in our daily life because it makes us feel safe and comfortable. We are used to be around with our family members; used to working with our colleagues and our boss,  used to our job and working environment, our car, our bed, and etc.

All of those are part of our daily life, and we have been attached to them for a very long time. We are used to having them as if they will last forever. Until one day things change. We lose our job or break up with our partner, and we feel like our life falls apart. 

Ann, 45-year-olds, had been married for 23 years. She felt her life had fallen apart when she found out that her husband cheated on her. She was married since she was 22 years old, had never worked since her husband let her stay home taking care of the house and kid. It was worst when her husband had chosen another woman instead of her. And he wanted to divorce her. At that time her son had grown up and left the house because he was studying at college and also working. 

She couldn't imagine how her life will be going forward. She had been depending on her husband her whole life. Undoubtedly she had been devastated, angry, depressed, unable to sleep and eat. Her husband's departure was a completely new experience for her.

It took some time, but gradually as the weeks turned to months, and then years. After some time she adjusted and accepted the truth that her husband had left her and will never come back. She had learned to face reality, accepted the change and made a decision to move on by starting to change her perspective.  She knew that when she felt hurt she wanted to let somebody know and feel her pains and she discovered that writing her story on a journal could help to ease her pains.

After having been writing for a while she finally posted her story on an inspirational website and her post got lots of viewers. Her post became the most popular post that captured the magazine owner's attention, and a week after that she got hired for an inspirational columnist. She also had her own inspirational blog and became an inspirational speaker.

She finally realized that the new life that was emerging was far richer than her previous existence. She made new friends, traveled and saw the world. Above all for the first time in her life, she began to know who she really was and what it was that she wanted out of life.

We all want a smooth life, however, life isn't meant to be smooth. No one can avoid difficulties, challenges in life. Since we can't control things, if it is supposed to happen it will happen.
And it doesn't matter what happens to us, but how we think and react to what happens to us does matter. It is our choice whether we will let a crisis destroy us or we will choose to see the crisis as an opportunity for growth. 

"Life is like a book, some chapters are sad, some happy, and some exciting. If you never turn the page you will never know what the next chapter holds. Maybe the next chapter is much more happy, exciting, and amazing! "

Wednesday, August 8, 2018

There comes a time when I am ready to face emotional pains in my life

As human beings, we can't avoid facing emotional pains in our lives. Everyone has stories, sometimes happy and at other times sad. And we all have past situations that sometimes we can't stop thinking about it. Whether it is a good or bad memory. That happens to me as well.

My old self in the past used to let someone hurt me emotionally over and over again. And when I felt hurt I would try to avoid my pain instead of facing it. I would distract myself by trying to keep busy, overworking, overeating, exercising, shopping, and even getting drunk. I thought those methods could help me ease my pain. However, I knew that the distractions just worked for a while and the pain was still there.

Realizing the consequences of avoiding my pain, I have started to change my perspective on what has happened. I have made a decision to face my emotional pains. And I adapt the meditation techniques: to accept pains as they are; by focusing my mind on my breathing, just observing the flow of the breath in and out of my nostrils. It helps me to become more aware of how my mind keeps pain trapped in.
I observe my thoughts and see them for what they are, no judgment. And when another thought arises, I just name it. I tell myself it is just thought and then I go back to focusing on the flow of my breath. I just keep doing this over and over again. When I do this I find that my breathing slows and I can begin to feel at ease.

We often don't get what we want in life. When we expect something to happen, so many times it does not happen the way we expected, or sometimes we lose what we have. While emotional pain is inevitable, suffering isn't. We can choose to face the pain, accept what has happened to cause the hurt, and then let go of it.

" Pain is inevitable. Suffering is optional."

Thursday, August 2, 2018

Inspiring Quotes to Help You Live a Life of Purpose

I have searched for my purpose in life for years.
I felt something in my life had been missing, however,
I didn't know the answer.
Every morning I got up, I asked myself "is this what I really want?
Why I am still here? Why still keep doing the things that
do not make me feel happy or feel fulfilled?"

I struggled every day pondering about my purpose.
Until one day I had realized that it was not because I didn't know
the purpose of my life but the way I thought of it.
I tried to figure out my life purpose that it had to be one thing.
Instead, I started with my passions and put them into action,
I was thinking too much about my passions and purpose.
That is not gonna work. We can't think our way into
life's passion and purpose. But we have to take action.
After changing my approach, I figured out the way to understand
my life purpose. I have put it into action.
My passions are as an inspirational blogger, novel writer,
and selling clothing.
I can't do all of them at the same time since I am still working.
I start with doing my blog because I can write my blog in my free time.
I used to use my job as an excuse for not having time to do the blog.
But after it was clear what my life purpose is
I have been motivated and I promised myself 
I will keep doing what I enjoy! Now I don't feel lost or as if something
is missing anymore because I enjoy doing the things that I love,
I have found my life's purpose and I feel fulfilled.
To my readers, if you guys have ever been in the same situation I had,
just start with listing all your passions and put them into action.
Don't think your way into life's passion and purpose
but you have to put this into action.
And when you do what you love and have a passion for it,
you have life's purpose! Enjoy your wonderful life, everyone.

"It’s not enough to have lived. We should be determined to live for something."

-Winston S. Churchill