Friday, September 25, 2020

Stop Living Your Life Based On What Others Think Of You

 

I believe that we all have been sent to live on this planet for a specific purpose; we all have our missions to accomplish. That's why our souls were put on this earth to be. 


When we are young, we have an intuitive understanding of who we are and how we do things. But as we grow older, we stop listening to our inner voice, and instead, we do what others tell us to do.


We go to school and college to get a degree that we believe will help us find a good-paying job or work for a prestigious company. We do the things that we are supposed to do. But often we feel like something is missing. 


I used to be the one who followed the path that I thought I was supposed to do. I just did anything that I had been told to do. I went to school, University, found the job, and worked with a prestigious company. 


As time went by, I found myself wondering if it really what I want in my life? I thought I am more than my job. I can do something phenomenal, I have something to offer, and I can make a difference. 


However, I was distracted by people I surrounded; I let their opinions and judgments influence me.  So I didn't want to change because I didn't want to face the failures. I thought if I failed, they would judge me. I let the noise of others' opinions drown out my inner voice. 



There comes a time when I have realized I have to stop living my life based on others think of me and start living for myself. I stop judging myself for others, and it doesn't matter what they think about me. What matters is what I think about myself. 


I have decided to follow my heart, inner voice, and let them lead me to pursue my goal. When I discover my purpose in life, I feel my life has meaning and fulfilled. I no longer need to be filled from the outside or seek approval and validation from others. 


"When you stop living your life based on what others think of you real life begins. At that moment, you will finally see the door of self-acceptance opened."

-Shannon L. Alder.








Saturday, September 19, 2020

Your present circumstances don't define you.


"Your present circumstances don't determine where you can go; they merely determine where you start."

-Nido Quien


I stumble on this quote that reminds me of myself in the past. I used to let the circumstances affect me; I thought whatever happened to me would block me from moving forward.


I thought I would get stuck in that situation forever. I felt my heart would never heal, and I would never get out of that impossible struggle.


I even beat up and blamed myself for whatever happened. I had been dwelling on the negativities and focusing on problems. I had let myself wallow in self-pity too long.


And there comes a time in my life when I have realized that I have to do something for myself. If I don't love and don't see my self-worth, no one will.


Everyone makes mistakes; we all must go through hard times in life, and it doesn't matter if we will get knocked down, but what counts is we have to get up.


Our present circumstances don't define our future and ourselves; it's just a starting point. And the best is yet to come.






Friday, September 4, 2020

Become Who You Are , Love Who You are, And Live Your Life The Way You Want To Live

 

I used to be the one who follows the social norms, the way I thought I was supposed to do to fit into it. Even though I had my dream, I should give up if it wasn't how most people would.  


Most people will go to school to get some degree, and that will be the path to  access the prestigious companies that will give them the good-paying, stable jobs or the jobs that will secure their futures. 


Those beliefs are the principles or the norms that we all have learned from generation to generation. And there is nothing wrong if we follow them, but those beliefs only make us ordinary people. 


The ordinary people who work from 8 to 5 and never feel satisfied or fulfilled; they are always busy all day but still feel something is missing. And often, they doubt themselves about the way they live their lives. If it is the way they want to be.


Back to the story about myself, I have been finding myself for my whole life. I have always asked myself: who am I?what is my life purpose?And what can I help to make the world a better place? I have been telling myself that I can be someone who can make a difference in the world. 


I am more than my past, background, current job, emotions, feeling, etc. I have started discovering myself from the inside by spending time alone to contemplate what I want in my life, and most importantly, what I do that will make me happy and fulfilled. 


The more I spend time being with myself, the more I learn about who I am, the more I love myself. And I am so happy that I finally have found myself. Now I know that being an inspirational blogger, author, and speaker are my passions. 


Those are the things that make me feel that my life has meaning and purpose. Even though I am still far away from where I want to be, I believe somehow I will make it!



"Find out who you are and be that person. That's what your soul was put on this earth to be. Find that truth, live that truth and everything else will come".

- Ellen Degeneres