"Your self-worth is determined by you. You don't have to depend on someone telling you who you are."
-Beyonce
I think self-encouragement is vital for us; we don't need to seek anyone to do it for us, but it is something we can do for ourselves.
To encourage self means we love ourselves, and we are the ones who know our self-worth. And we need to forgive ourselves as well.
When we know our worth, we no longer seek approval and validation from others because we can see it within us, not from the outside.
And the more we can see ourselves from the inside, the more we are in tune with ourselves, and finally, we will become who we truly are.
"Life is a journey that must be traveled no matter how bad the roads and accommodations."
-Unknown
I have been thinking about my life, that it's all about the destination, and whenever I make it there, I will be happy. However, I have just realized that maybe what I have been thinking might be wrong.
Looking back on my life, I have learned that my destination is endless; when I finally reach my goal, I always set another new plan. And when I am still on my way to my destination, where I face obstacles, I always feel unhappy and discouraged. So many times, I almost gave up.
Because I look forward to reaching the destination, which makes me forget to enjoy the journey, and I forget those people I meet along my way, including the beautiful views that I miss enjoying.
From this moment, I will be a new person and learn to enjoy the journey. I will enjoy all the ups and downs along the way. I will appreciate the process and see it as a reward because life is a journey that we must travel despite difficulties that will make us grow.
" Don't let your past define you. Let it shape you into the person you want to become."
-Unknown
Everyone has a past, mistakes and has been through tough times in life. No one always has a smooth and perfect life, but sometimes, it can be a bumpy ride along the way.
So many times in our lives that we spend so much of our time dwelling on past mistakes. It's just like we relive the past, and it is not useful; it will only hold us back.
I know sometimes it's hard. When we try not to think about what has happened to us, it's not something that we can change overnight. But it needs practice and most of all we need to train our thoughts.
As it said " If you can control your thoughts, you can control your life." But so many times, we let our thoughts control us. That because we unconsciously think our thoughts ,and often they are unproductive and self-abusive.
We are not our past mistakes or not our stories. But we are more than what we think we are, and we can be anything we choose to become.
"New Year brings us a new opportunity that is waiting for us to pursue. And it is a chance for us to begin again. No dream is too big to achieve. Anything is possible. It's time to make your dream come true. I hope this is your best year yet. Happy New Year."
-Belle
I want to start New Year Day with a positive thought, inspiration, hope, faith, and passion because I believe these things will guide me in the right direction.
In my life, I have failed at life many times. And as I look back on my life, I realize that the end of something will always bring me to the beginning of something better.
And everything happens for a reason; sometimes, we don't get something we want; it doesn't mean we don't deserve it, but because we deserve better.
I believe that we can become anything we want as long as we have faith and passion. Most importantly, we need to keep walking and never give up until we achieve it.
"Be thankful for whatever happened over this past year. And believe that everything happens for a reason. Be open to any opportunities that the New Year may bring."
-Belle
Today is the last day of the year 2020(I wrote a post-draft on Dec 31,2020, but it is published on Jan1,2021 ), and as it said, every end will always bring a new beginning of something.
Whatever happened to you this past year, be thankful for it because it meant to shape you to become a better and stronger person.
We can't go back to change the things that already happened. But we can learn from them.
Whatever your new year's resolution is, don't forget attitude is everything. The right attitude will guide you in the right direction.
"Sometimes, you will never know the value of a moment until it becomes a memory!"
-Theodor Seuss Geisel
We are always busy with the daily routine that makes us forget to appreciate the little things in our life.
We take our family for granted; since we wake up until we go to bed, our day is filled with many things to do so often that we keep postponing visiting our parents or even make a phone call to them.
We don't spend time with our kids when they want us because we always have a reason that we are too busy to play with them.
We tend to forget that our kids grow up when we are busy with our lives, and our parents grow old.
We never know how long we will have a chance to spend time with our parents. And we can't go back to the time when our kids were very young.
So, we should learn to cherish our moments with our loved ones when we still have a chance before it becomes a memory!
"What other people think of you is not your business. If you start to make that business your business, you will be offended for the rest of your life."
-Deepak Chopra
We are human beings; naturally, we need to be liked by others. Often we care so much about what other people think about us. Growing up, we have learned to follow the standard or the norm that our society has created.
We always do the things we are supposed to do, which makes us forget to follow our hearts. We have a dream, but we don't dare to chase it because we fear failure. We fear how other people will judge or think about us.
And we even try to please others to make them approve or like us. We act like these because we have learned that we have to get approval from others, making us feel we fit in. We live up to other's expectations.
I was the one who tried to be a people pleaser because I wanted approval and like. I used to live up to other's expectations that included my family's. Until one day, I have realized that living that way will not make me happy.
I don't have to worry about what others will think about me because it isn't my business, but it is their business. And I have only one life, why don't I live and spend it the way I want? And what others think of me does not matter, but what I think about myself does matter!
